Affirmations are short sentences stating something, and are often used to improve behavioural issues and blocks that may be stopping you from accomplishing your goals, or preventing you from being happy. But even if you don't believe in them, affirmations are already on your life, often in the form of negative affirmations. Every time you tell yourself that you can't do something or that you are too old/heavy/ugly/slow to do something you want to do, you are using a negative affirmation to reinforce that belief. Positive affirmations are created to counteract those negative thoughts.
Positive affirmations are created to target particular behaviours that you know are negative, and help you achieve your goals by convincing yourself that you can actually do it. You cannot win a race if you never start running or if you just give up mid-way because somehow, you knew you were going to lose anyway. It's easy to see negative behaviour patterns on others, such as that workmate that never gets a promotion because he never asks for it, but it's much more difficult to see them on yourself. By identifying those goals that are dearest for you, you can then see what kind of negative behaviour patterns are stopping you on your tracks, and create an opposing positive affirmation to replace them on your mind.
Many negative thoughts originate from seemingly innocent comments made to you during your life that spiral out of control, or from well-meaning adults trying to excuse a mistake without making you feel bad. Take for example those people who never manage a diet, because they think that obesity is just their body build. Believing that you are just overweight because that's how life is and your mum always said that you just had to live with being round is not only damaging, but it's stopping you from actually succeeding on a diet. Unless there's an underlying medical issue, eating chocolate because a little voice on your head tells you that dieting is not going to work for you because your metabolism is slow is not leading you anywhere.
Turn around your negative thoughts into a positive affirmation that you can repeat happily and regularly to yourself, until it becomes part of you. This way you can actually invite change into your life, and change those things that are preventing you from being happy, or limiting your ability to enjoy yourself. There will be always a certain degree of resistance, as your subconscious doesn't want to change deeply seated behaviour patterns that at some point were useful, but if you persevere you'll soon start noticing that resistance fade and positive changes taking effect on your life. This, in turn, makes it easier for you to believe on the power of positive affirmations and your innate capacity for change.
If you aren't sure about the power of positive affirmations and a positive attitude to change your life you only need to try. Create an affirmation about a single goal that is important for you, and write it down, sing it or repeat it for yourself several times a day. Once the initial feelings of resistance fade you'll find yourself thinking differently, and that's the first step towards actually enabling change on your life.
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